Mother’s-how do you find your YOU time? #IYP ‘Longevity’
I thank you, I appreciate you and your time, I know you could be doing anything in the world…but you chose to be right here with me…amazing!
To all the Mother’s how Do you find the time? Yes Time?!! We appreciate you so much!
I want to keep this as on point as I can- I want to try to keep it as real as I can as well. I don’t want to sugar coat it, because this topic deserves a fatal diagnosis, the type of diagnosis you get when they say you have 2 weeks to live…because to me it’s that relevant!
To all the women of this amazing planet we live on, I can and will never know what it is each and everyone of you go through on a day to day basis- we as men are beyond blessed to basically only deal with what…going bald and maybe getting fat. Where as women my ohh my you deal with it all and just keep pushing forward.
What I can speak on is this being raised by women, my mom, my zia my cousins (who are all females and all at least 10 years older than me) and on top of that growing up in a hair salon I was surrounded by women pretty much all the time. I know what it is to me a man being raised by women. I know what it is that women do for their children. I know what it is women go without for their children. I know what I saw women put on the back burner to be a mom, wife, supporter of others. From dreams, schooling, passions, talents, putting everyone before them. This is the point of view I want to come from to get this diagnosis out.
From what I saw and experienced, at some point and again not always but at some point this all catches up with us. What I saw, lived through, and viewed, was women get less and less time for themselves in order to make sure everyone else in the family was GOOD…can you feel me on this one? If you were lucky enough to have a mom then you may have experienced this. Something I heard over and over again from older women was… I am a wife, I am a mother, I take care of…I only know how to take care of or do this -it’s all I’ve done or all I know.
On the outside looking in I sometimes wonder do men do this to the womem? Don’t get me wrong I understand that there are lot’s and lot’s of women who are proud to be a mother, a wife and some even want this more than anything else in life. For all of you I am excited and happy for you if this is your passion and purpose. Yet I have to question the unhappiness in so so so many relationships- and I mean all races, all age categories, all demographics. There could be numerous issues here…numerous but what about the one simple idea of NOT ENOUGH TIME FOR YOURSELF…or even NO TIME FOR YOURSELF. Between cooking, running children around, taking care of the house, the husband, the wash, the cleaning…making money, an income, when do you get to just do you…your dreams, your love, or even just a real and I mean a real relax, not 10 minutes in the bathroom while no one is around, I mean the real deal, the type of relax that heals the mind, body, soul. No one is going to give that to you…you have to take it for yourself!! Please find the time for this- it is a must!
That is not being selfish either in my humble opinion as a man who has a mother, sister, cousins, female friends…I want you all to be around for as long as you can so I can be blessed by your presence. This means you need to take time for yourself to insure your mental and physical strength as well as some type of self awareness, happiness and purpose! The one thing I noticed was that a lot of women at the mid life point or sort of when the kids leave the house get some what lost because their identity seemed to be that of being there for the kids or the husband, and when the kids leave…now what? Again do not get me twisted, this issue is for all of us men, children, women, humans, that feeling of being lost in life. I do however truly feel that women are the ones whom have to put their wants on hold…
Let me explain what I mean by this…so you and your partner have careers, jobs, and visions of what it is you want to be when you grow up and your wants into the future. Fast forward…amazing we are pregnant!! Things change here- the man would have to buckle down and provide for the family while the mom to be delivers and nurses the baby correct, from there the mother would take a certain amount of time off from her work -maybe years or not and I am sure it all depends on the couple and situation. If there is more than one baby the women will be taking time off for long periods of time let’s just say…all the while the man is working harder to provide and go up the ladder of the corperate system (what ever that system maybe -self employed- government worker- investor- whatever) but most times- not all- will be working up towards his final spot…and the women either continues to start over again or leaves the system all together.
This is why in my humble words the women needs to make the time to find her own happy place…her own. You need to make you happy. Not someone else or something else. Your dream -Your passion- Your love..outside of family, because one day that will all be gone and you will at some point have to meet yourself for the first time! So please carve out some time to meet yourself!
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